My Personal Experience With Tape-In Hair Extensions

Tape-in hair extensions were amazing for the first four weeks, but the rest of the experience left me feeling a bit wounded.   I arrived at the point of needing extensions for my tattered, damaged hair after a long journey of over processing and dying my hair. Many of you know that last year I went through a few shades of the ultra trendy, IG friendly silver hair.  My fine hair did not appreciate all those processing hours in the salon.  The final nail in the coffin for my tortured hair was the trip back to red and then finally the addition of hair extensions.  I really should have listened to my stylist and quit the process early, but I’m stubborn.

My Tape-In Hair Extension Experience

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions
The broken ends were so bad, they shriveled up and frizzed. (see the left side of the photo)

I can’t express how badly I did not want to cut off more hair than I already had, but what else can you do when your hair resembles a Brillo pad.  Being a hair extension virgin, not even a clip in had touched this hair, I was hopeful that these babies would camouflage the damage and allow my hair to grow out healthily.

My experience with tape-in hair extensions

     I did my homework and I found that while all extensions cause damage to some degree, tape-ins are on the lower end of the spectrum.  Sounds like a plan!

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

I chose skin weft based on the look and quality.

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

Skin weft have individually knotted rows of hair.

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

The alternative (shown above) is a densely packed row of hair with no individual knots.  This type of tape in can look like a clump of matted (for lack of better description) hair beneath natural hair and is more difficult to conceal than the skin weft type of extension.

How do Tape-in’s work?

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

The back of the weft is the tape side of the extension.  A small section of natural hair is placed between the sticky sides of two extensions.  Multiple rows of “hair sandwiches” are created from the crown to the base of the skull (number of rows is dependent on whether extensions are used for length, volume or both.

How Did The Extensions Look?

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

You tell me!

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

I absolutely loved them.  I didn’t find them terribly difficult to conceal.  The packaging clearly says “straight” hair extensions, but they were crazy curly after washing.  I reconciled with my new frock after I learned out to care for curly hair.

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

I missed my pony’s dearly.  Thankfully after about 6 weeks, I had enough new growth and the extensions were far enough from my scalp that I could do rock a pony, with a headband to conceal them.

How Well Do Tape-In’s Hold Up?

I had only one issue with my extensions during the first month.   My hair is very thin and brittle from over processing.  The extension sandwiches have so much weight from the additional strands and length, so when attached to thin hair, especially close to my face, the extensions can pull out the small hairs anchoring them.  It’s worth noting that extensions come in different weights, but tape-ins only have one weight.  I had to trim them away until their was a thick enough piece of hair holding them on.

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair ExtensionsMy Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions

Not a great feeling, to know your hair is slowly being pulled out.  In retrospect, I would not put the extensions so close to my face.  My stylist and I discussed this and because my hair is thin, it is more difficult to conceal them, making it ideal to have more extensions and closer to the hairline.  Knowing what I know now, I would make that sacrifice.

How Long Do Tape-In Extensions Last?

Usually tape-ins are kept until about 1.5-2 inches of new growth is present.  Normal growth is about a half-inch per month.  My hair grows fast, so I had 1.5 inches of new growth after almost two months.  My hair began to matte after about 6 weeks.  Matting will happen; it’s caused from the hair between the hair sandwich rows tangling in the space between the extensions.  Think about having foils in your hair for highlights, the hair that mattes, in this case of example, would be the hair left out of the foils (extensions).  Hair between the extensions gets tangled and, while you can brush and wash your hair like normal, as the extensions grow further away from your head, it becomes more difficult to keep extensions separated and untangled from the hair left out of the extensions.

I started to feel like I couldn’t keep up with the maintenance even though I was using the silk pillow case, hair scarf, braids and everything else recommended .  I wonder if the damage and my thin hair texture played a role in this as well.

I wanted to move them up toward my scalp, so they would be more manageable.  By then, the holidays were approaching and my stylist was booked out.  Removing and replacing hair extensions both require a decent block of time.  I was able to book enough time to replace the extensions, but not to take them out.  No worries though, I have several friends who use tape-ins and they never go to the salon to remove them.

How To Remove Tape-In Extensions

Or rather, how not to remove tape-ins… this is where my experience with extensions went completely awry.  A few weeks before I decided to remove them, I’d asked my stylist to remove an extension that felt like it was only partially attached.  He used a salon formula to remove it and it took him a while.  There was lots of tugging and, “I’m sorry’s.”  He hadn’t seen an extension so tightly secured, ever.  A few days later, I felt a pea sized portion of glue still nestled in my hair where he removed the extension, so I purchased the salon formula glue remover and it did just about nothing; I lost most of the hair attached to that piece of glue.

My friends all use coconut oil to remove their tape-in extensions.  The extension care instructions read not to use any conditioner/oil products near the tape because it dissolves the glue.  Makes sense that this would remove the extension.  Having had the previous glue remover experience, I went into it armed with, coconut oil, glue remover and the confidence of my friends.

“Oh it’s so easy, I sit in front of the tv and massage them out.”  One friend said.

“It’s relaxing.” another said.

I’ll save you from the 8 minute video of me working on one extension that ended up taking far longer than 8 minutes.  The internet quotes 20 minutes for removing tape-in extensions.  Clearly the coconut oil wasn’t working.  I reached for the glue remover.  The problem wasn’t getting the hair extensions out, they came out with ease, it was the strip of glue matted to my hair.  It was nearly impossible to get the tangled matted glue out of my hair.  My husband and I worked with oil, glue remover and a fine toothed comb for four and a half hours until the glue was finally removed.  I lost a lot of hair in the process.

My Personal Experience With Tape-in Hair Extensions
It doesn’t help the photo that my roots grow in blonde, but you can see that there is noticeable thinning of my hair post extensions.

I can’t stress enough that this is not what usually happens with removal of tape-in extensions.

“Oh it’s so easy, I sit in front of the tv and massage them out.”  Picture me rolling my eyes.

So What Happened Then?

I visited the store where I purchased the extensions and shared my story.  The employee assured me that while it’s not common for the glue to adhere so strongly to the hair, I am not alone in my experience.  He says it happens because of a few reasons:

  • In Arizona, the extensions can heat up quite a bit if the wearer participates in several pool days mid Summer.  Nope, not me, I stay shaded and this was December.
  • The wearer uses a lot of heated styling tools and reheats the glue from time to time.  I only used heat on my hair one to two times a week because of the damage, but occasionally I did reheat the glue with my straightener.  I was told that most people have a problem with the extensions slipping, so it’s good to reheat the glue.  Perhaps having to replace a few is a better tradeoff than not being able to remove them.

How Do You Get Hair Extensions Out if the Glue Mattes?

The very nice man at The Hair Shop assured me that he could have removed them without causing so much trauma.  He explained that the glue had bonded too strongly to the hair, so if it’s heated slightly with a hair straightener prior to the application of glue remover, the softened glue would lift out with the extension instead of leaving behind the strip of glue.  “Once the glue is left behind in the hair, you’re basically screwed.” He assured me.  Yes, that’s exactly how it felt.  My hair was screwed.

I wanted to try the extensions one more time for you, my loyal readers.  I wanted to see if this technique would work, but the state of my hair won over.  I could not possibly go through that again.  I’d have no hair left!  My stylist offered to use this technique on another willing participant to see if extensions came out easier, but since this is not a typical response to the glue, I think it really should be used on hair that is known to bond too strongly to glue, ie: mine.  If I do work up the courage to try out tape-ins again, I’ll follow up with you.  I’m pretty sure I’ll be growing my own long hair though, it’s far less trouble.


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I can’t believe this happened to you! If you need a referral to a fab hair extension stylist I’ll send one your way. I’ve had tape-in, keratin-bonded, clip-ins and halos…literally every hair extension there is (except beaded) and have not experienced this. My tape-in wefts were done for my wedding by Rolf’s and they were amazing. They lasted 4, maybe 6 weeks max without needing to be reapplied. 8 weeks is totally not realistic.

Most hair extensions only last about 3 months at best, though the halo can last 6 months or more depending on how often you wear it/what you do to it. Be careful with clip-ins, they can pull. But it’s so nice to not always have a heavy head of hair.


Thank you! I remember telling you how excited I was to try them for the first time. I’m interested in some of the other methods, but I’m so close to having a decent hair cut. All the damaged hair has grown out enough to sort of look like an intentional layer. It’s probably a good idea to let it grow. I do miss my long hair. Of course I cut my long long hair before this messy hair adventure!

I’m loving the clip-ins right now. I only wear them for a night out or special occasion. I don’t think I would like them as much if I relied on them every single day. My hair is so fine that they tend to want to slip right out, even with a ton of teasing. I’m going to do a follow-up post on how I use them.

Thanks Mar!


You may have been given some bad advice. I’ve been wearing tape-ins for two years now. Yes:I’ve had a couple of less-than-ideal installations. But frankly, it sounds like you just bought a brand that wasn’t right for you. They vary widely. My worst experience was actually with some of the most expensive tape-in hair on the market, put in at a very expensive – supposedly experienced – salon. Then I bought at least 4 different brands and experimented with stylists until I found what works best for me. My hair is pretty thin on the sides so now I have the stylist cut the wefts in two so that the sandwiches are only half as heavy around my face. Also: whoever told you tape-ins should last more than 6 to 8 weeks was either delusional or lying. You started getting tangling at 6 weeks: that’s right on schedule and they needed to be reinstalled. Also, the rows should be close enough that you don’t have a lot of your own hair in between to tangle up. Oil breaks down the glue. But it also ruins the wefts. All you need is a little isopropyl alcohol and some time. Work on one sandwich at a time. I run my fingernail along where the wefts are glued just to separate them enough to get some alcohol from a cotton ball or eye dropper in between. Let it work and add more until the hair slides off. Yes: the alcohol is drying. But you aren’t dousing your whole head in it. But here, i think you just bought hair with too much glue. Right now im wearing Lux and Bonds hair and I’m happy with it. Hated Hairdreams: shed like crazy and cost a fortune. Glam Seamless: not the greatest but ok. And there are a few more I’ve worn too.



Thank you so much for your feedback. I really wanted to revisit extensions at some point and try out a few of the things you pointed out. I think the hair sandwiches were way too wide. We talked about cutting them in half to give me more movement. Also, 2 months was definitely too long for me. My stylist said a lot of women do try to push it to 8 weeks and my friends confirmed that they did as well. My hair grows too fast and the texture of my hair (being thin naturally and totally fried from a unicorn dye job), predisposed me to matting. I definitely should not have tried to remove them myself. I went back to the place where I bought them and they told me that if I remove the hair sandwich without the glue attached to it, I’m already “F’d.” I would agree with that statement. I hadn’t thought about the brand having too much glue, that’s a good point.

I ended up deciding to let my fried hair grow out on it’s own. Having a baby helped it to grow in thicker too, so I haven’t been brave enough to give it another go around. If I leave my hair alone, it’s actually full and healthy, so it was probably a good move. I’ve been using clip in hair extensions for a while and I love them. The clip ins are more manageable right now for me. It’s good to hear from someone who stuck to with the tape-ins. I think it’s important for women to know that there are a variety of products and the wrong product or installation can be damaging, but at the same time, there are adjustments that can be made.

Thank you for sharing those tips!

Sorry for the delayed response- things are a bit crazy around here with the newborn.


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